Practising self-care is not self-indulgent or selfish; it’s essential, both for us and for those around us.

I often say, you can’t pour from an empty cup, and this is exactly what self-care is about. It’s about recharging your batteries so that you are able to do the things that you do better.

There are no heroes in this world, and being a woman who, in most cases, has to juggle work, home, family, and childcare commitments, it’s really hard work

So what do you need to do to make sure that your batteries stay ‘mostly’ charged

First of all, you need to set the intention that you deserve to be looked after and that practising self-care is a priority, however big or small that chunk of time may be.

You need to commit to time for yourself, and not beat yourself up or allow yourself to make excuses for why it shouldn’t or couldn’t be done

Small chunks of time are often easier to manage and are less likely to be cancelled. So block out small chunks of time and put them in the diary, and work the rest of your day and week around them. That way it’s much more likely to get done.

Go to bed early and make sure that you rest. This is the most simple and effective method of self-care. When we are tired of resilience and our resistance is low, so sleep well and rest well… Sometimes it’s just a simple as that.

Ask for help. If I said, you don’t have to be a hero and you don’t have to do things on your own. If there are a couple of tasks that can be handed out in order for you to do the things that help you do your job better, then delegation is your friend.

Finally, do things that make you happy. Whatever that may be, whether that’s hot chocolate and comfy pyjamas, lunch or dinner with friends, getting your nails done or meditating… You’re the only one that can set the rules so make sure they’re rules that you are happy to play by

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