Go from feeling trapped in an unhappy marriage to creating the relationship and life you really want
Discover the peaceful way to step off the "Stay or Go" merry-go-round, get clear about your path forward and regain your sense of self and joy without destroying your family.
I'M READY TO THRIVELET'S BE HONEST...
Does This Sound Like You?
- You feel like roommates who happen to share a mortgage and kids
- You feel guilty for wanting more when "he's not a bad guy"
- You fantasize about what it would feel like to be truly seen and wanted by someone
- You're exhausted from being the only one who seems to care about fixing things
- You're successful in every other area of your life but can't crack this one

IF YOU'RE NODDING ALONG...
You're most certainly not alone.
But here's the thing...marriages don't break overnight.
They erode slowly, bit by bit, chipping away at you, until you wake up one day feeling like strangers sharing a home.
The problem isn't that you're 'crazy' or 'want too much'. It's that you've been working from subconscious beliefs that have had you settling and compromising in the most important relationship you are meant to have.
Every time you swallow your words to keep the peace, every time you make yourself small trying to avoid his temper or stonewalling, every time you pour another glass of wine to numb the pain in your chest... you're reinforcing patterns that started long before you even met him.
But here's the thing I want you to know...
It's not necessarily that you need to divorce
Rather, you need to leave behind the unconscious stories and patterns you picked up that caused you to abandon yourself for the comfort of others.
And divorce the way of being that led you both to this place.
Because when you live from a fundamental knowing that you are worthy... the path ahead reveals itself because you're able to speak up for what you need and deserve, and have the confidence to step forward and create the life you want, instead of waiting passively for someone or something else to change.
The change you want starts the moment you decide you want it to be better.

Imagine yourself instead, 90-Days from now...
- Actually saying what you think without tiptoeing around his feelings - and feeling heard instead of like you're talking to a brick wall
- Sleeping like a normal person because you finally know what you're doing with your life - no more 3am spiraling about whether to stay or go
- Feeling like yourself again - not some exhausted shell of a woman, but actually alive, attractive, and worth being around
- Your kids seeing what love actually looks like - instead of learning that marriage means walking on eggshells and pretending everything's fine
- Either genuinely enjoying your husband's company again - or being totally at peace with the decision to leave because you know it's right
THAT'S EXACTLY WHY I CREATED...


90-day transformation system for professional women trapped in the 'stay or go' cycle - designed to help you heal your patterns, reclaim your voice, and create the love and life you actually want
I'M READY TO THRIVEThRough online self-study training & private, Transformational coaching, 90-Days from now you'll leave:

Clear
You'll finally know what you actually want instead of spinning in endless "what if" scenarios. That voice in your head stops arguing with itself because you have a clear path forward - no more lying awake at 3am doom scrolling.

Confident
You speak up without your heart racing or rehearsing what to say five times first. You ask for what you need, set boundaries that stick, and trust yourself to handle whatever happens next - even the scary conversations

At Peace
Your brain finally gets quiet. No more constant background anxiety about your marriage or future. You're actually present when your kids are talking instead of mentally running through exit strategies during dinner.
Bottom line? You'll feel alive & connected again, whether in this marriage or beyond it. No pressure, entirely your choice.
I'M READY TO THRIVELet's break it down
Here's what's inside
Soon as you join you'll get instant and lifetime access to the training vault where you'll:

Design Your Dream Life
Stop settling for "good enough" and finally give yourself permission to want more.
So many women struggle to even imagine what they want because dreaming feels too painful. In this first training I'll show you how to break through the mental block that keeps you stuck in "this is just how it is" thinking so that you can create a clear vision without the heartbreak.
In Module 1, you'll:
- Break through the "this is just how it is" mental block
- Give yourself permission to want what you want without guilt
- Create a clear vision that energizes you instead of making you sad
- Design a life that feels authentic to who you're becoming
You'll go from "I don't even know what I want anymore" to having a crystal-clear picture of your dream life that feels exciting and achievable.

Unravel Your Past
Finally understand why you keep accepting crumbs and settling for less than you deserve.
Tired of feeling stuck in the same relationship patterns over and over? This module will help you identify the invisible programming that's been running your love life so that you can finally break free from cycles that make you feel small or stuck.
In Module 2, you'll:
- Identify the invisible programming that's been running your love life
- See exactly how your childhood taught you to settle and stay quiet
- Understand why you attract or tolerate emotionally unavailable partners
- Break the cycle so you stop passing these patterns to your children
You'll go from "Why do I keep doing this to myself?" to "Oh, that's why I am this way - and now I can change it."

Release Old Wounds & Reclaim Your Power
Stop people-pleasing your way through life while your own needs go unmet.
This one is a so important if you're tired of saying yes when you mean no and feeling resentful afterward.
You'll learn how to nurture and heal your inner child so that you can free yourself from self-doubt, people-pleasing and "fear of letting people down" so you stop self-abandoning and honour your own needs.
In Module 3 you'll:
- Heal the wounds that keep you small and seeking approval
- Stop people-pleasing and start honoring your own needs
- Show up with confidence instead of constantly second-guessing yourself
- Set boundaries that feel natural, not forced or guilty
You'll go from "I can't say no without feeling terrible" to "I honor my needs and set boundaries with ease."

Rewire Your Thoughts for Unshakable Self-Confidence
Stop second-guessing every decision and start trusting yourself completely.
Module 4 is about busting through the mental chatter that makes you doubt your own judgment. You'll reprogram the limiting beliefs that keep you small so that you can trust yourself to handle whatever comes next. This means you won't keep seeking validation from others or talking yourself out of what you really want.
In Module 4 you'll:
- Reprogram limiting beliefs so you trust your own decisions
- Strengthen your self-worth and know what you truly deserve
- Develop unshakable confidence in your choices
- Own your desires unapologetically without needing permission
You'll go from "What if I'm wrong?" to "I trust myself to figure this out."

Speak Your Truth & Be Heard Without Fear or Conflict
Stop walking on eggshells and start saying what you actually think.
Tired of rehearsing conversations in your head five times before speaking up? Module 5 is for you. You'll learn to speak with clarity and confidence so that you can express your needs without fear of conflict or shutdown.
👋🏽 Say goodbye to swallowing your words and building resentment while everyone else gets their way.
In Module 5 you'll:
- Speak up without your heart racing or voice shaking
- Set boundaries that stick without feeling guilty afterward
- Have difficult conversations that actually create change
- Create deeper connections by showing up authentically
You'll go from "I can't say that, it'll cause a fight" to "I can handle whatever happens when I speak my truth."

Raise Thriving, Emotionally Strong Children
Stop worrying that your unhappy marriage is messing up your kids for life.
Are you panicking that your children are learning terrible relationship patterns from watching you?
In module 6 you'll discover how to model healthy love and boundaries so that your kids grow up with strong self-worth and emotional resilience.
In Module 6 you'll:
- Model authentic love so your kids know what healthy relationships look like
- Teach your children to trust themselves and set boundaries
- Create emotional safety even when your own relationship feels unstable
- Break generational cycles of dysfunction and people-pleasing
You'll go from "I'm screwing up my kids" to "I'm raising emotionally strong humans who know their worth."

Rewrite Your Money Story
Stop letting financial fear trap you in an unhappy marriage.
For so many women the fear that leaving would mean you'd be broke and struggling forever shuts down your brain and triggers the "nope" alarm.
That's why in this training, I'll show you how to rewire the scarcity beliefs that keep you financially frozen so that you can see abundance and opportunity everywhere.
In Module 7 you'll:
- Break free from "there's never enough" thinking that keeps you trapped
- Understand how your past programmed you to fear financial independence
- Develop an empowered money mindset that attracts opportunities
- See abundance all around you instead of focusing on lack
You'll shift from "I'll be ruined if I leave" to "I can figure this out - and being happier will help me create the abundance I deserve."

Attract Your High Vibe Tribe
Stop feeling alone and misunderstood by the people closest to you.
Exhausted by friends and family who drain your energy or make you feel crazy for wanting more? Module 8 is for you. You'll learn how to identify and attract supportive people who actually get you so that you can surround yourself with those who lift you up.
In this module you'll:
- Recognize which relationships are holding you back vs lifting you up
- Attract people who support your growth instead of sabotaging it
- Set boundaries with energy vampires and dream crushers
- Build a tribe that celebrates your transformation
You'll go from "Nobody understands what I'm going through" to "I'm surrounded by people who see and support the real me."

Nurturing Your Well-Being & Thriving in Every Area of Life
Stop running on empty while everyone else gets the best of you.
Feel guilty whenever you try to take care of yourself because everyone else's needs always come first? This training is for you.
You'll learn how to truly prioritize yourself without the guilt so that you can show up as the empowered woman you're meant to be.
In Module 9 you'll:
- Prioritize yourself without feeling selfish or guilty
- Replenish your energy so you can give from abundance, not depletion
- Build sustainable habits that support your transformation
- Show up as your best self instead of a burned-out shell
Expect to go from "I don't have time to take care of myself" to "Taking care of me benefits everyone - and I deserve it."
And thats not all...
You'll also get instant access to these resources to support your journey

Resolve conflict peacefully
Learn how to handle disagreements with ease so your home remains calm and peaceful.

speak their love language
Discover the secret to a love that lasts - communicating in your partner’s love language so you both feel loved & valued
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HI THERE , I'M PASCALE LANE
Transforming stuck relationships isn’t just something I teach; it’s something I’ve lived.
Before becoming a therapist, I was searching for answers just like you. Being married to a neurodivergent man, growing up with a critical mother, I found myself with 2 young daughters, paralysed in indecision, wondering... "should I stay, or should I go?"
I know first hand what it feels like to feel unmet and disconnected from the person who's supposed to be "your person", slowly dying on the inside, seeking breadcrumbs of happiness or connection in food, alcohol, shopping or work.
Anything to avoid another argument or disappointing exchange where once again, you end up feeling trapped and alone.
I created Thrive because working with clients privately as a counsellor and therapist was not enough for them to breakthrough.


I saw clients return week after week, talk about how they felt, but then in between sessions fall into the same cycles over and over again.
Just talking about the past, and "offloading" was not enough to create the lasting transformation and connection in their relationships.
So by training as a transformational coach and giving clients "homework" to build a deeper understanding of how trauma and their upbringing shaped their self-concept, everything started to change.
Thrive was born from this homework. And over the past 10yrs, this approach has helped hundreds of women, deeply connect to themselves, get off the "stay or go"merry go round and regain their sense of self AND joy, without blowing up their family.
Because here's the thing I want you to know...
It's not necessarily your relationship that needs to end. But the way of being that led you both here, that does.
So if you're ready to end the analysis paralysis thats holding your life in limbo, so you can feel alive and connected again, it would be my pleasure to support you to Thrive.

Jonie took back control and created a new life
"Thank you Pascale! I can’t sing your praises highly enough."
You came into my life at a time when I needed to make some changes but I was scared and I was stuck. You not only helped me out of that situation but have helped me to transform my life. It is just fantastic. I am so grateful to you!
- Jonie

Sandra got clarity on who she really is and what she wants in her life
"I feel clear about me"
Pascale has taught me how to look closely at my life and unpick everything so I feel clear about me. She has an amazing, friendly and professional approach to everything with a best friend twist. Has a great book to read to get an insight into her work and to start you on your journey to being the best you.
- Sandra

Lucy broke the cycle of trauma so her children can thrive now too
"I am a much better Mummy thanks to you"
You helped me understand my past so I could change my children’s future. There is no price I wouldn’t pay for that!
- Lucy
You might be wondering...
Is this right for me?
You're in the right place if
- You're ready to get off the "stay or go" merry-go-round and create change NOW
- You understand this isn't about tearing up your life - it's about thriving in the life you have or confidently choosing something new
- You understand that lasting change is an inside job, not about fixing your partner
You're in the wrong place If...
- You're looking for someone to blame or validate that everything is your partner's fault
- You're not willing to go deeper than surface level or examine your own patterns
- You would rather stay stuck in analysis paralysis rather than take action
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