What is your love story?

Maybe you’ve had lots of relationships but never really managed to settle down and find that one. Or maybe you’ve been married and divorced or married and divorced several times? Maybe you’re a hopeless romantic but your prince charming just has never come along.

So what’s the story? A lot of the work that I do with couples and with women do seem to follow a similar pattern. Often women speak about coming from broken families, not necessarily traumatic but they have been somehow, affected by their parents split. Or maybe their parents hadn’t split but they viewed their parent’s marriage as very unhappy or saw their mother unhappy or unsatisfied.

It is very important to understand what love was like for you when you were growing up. What did you see, what did you hear, what was your experience? How much time have you spent wondering if your family upbringing has influenced, not just your love life, but actually what impact this has had on potential blockages that you may have in finding your happy ever after?

If you are not emotionally healthy, if you are not able to be fully reflective of your own thoughts and feelings, you may find it hard to attract the right partner or find lasting happiness in your relationships. It’s the old cliche I’m afraid. If you cannot love yourself, nobody else truly can.

So what are you willing to do to make your future happy? Are you able to be honest and open with yourself about what might be getting in the way of your happy ending?