? Okay so previously we were thinking about how happy you are with the areas of your life, which bits are good, which bits are not so good and I asked you to kind of map out the main areas and give them a try give them a score if you like of 1 to 5.
? Now if your relationship is something that you feel is a difficulty or a struggle for whatever reason, whether it’s a big struggle or whether there’s just something that you can’t quite put your finger on, I ask you to do the same thing as I did in the previous update in mind-mapping your relationship.
? So you’ll be looking at your relationship in its entirety but pulling out the main areas of your relationship, in order to identify quite easily which bits you need to work on; which bits are working well and which bits need more support.
? Now it might be that you already know what bits you are struggling with but I ask you to do the exercise anyway because I think it’s a really good way of visually seeing which bits of the relationship are working really well for you both as well as which bits aren’t. So you can map out which bits are the significant parts of your relationship.
? So it might be that you think about communication, money, sex, time, time together, family commitment, work commitments; anything that’s important in your relationship.. and then give it a score from kind of like 1 to 5 so you know what bits you feel that you need work on. Then what you have is a really good, a visual representation of what is working really well, what’s not working very well and it gives you a good basis for you to be able to talk to your partner about what you feel you need adjusting in your relationship.
? You may find some surprises. You may find that you think, oh gosh I thought it was this but actually now I’m looking at it I see that its not that its this or its this but its this as well … and that gives you, what it does is it gives you the ability to be able to sit down and talk and its really important to be able to know and to talk about what’s working really well as well as what’s not working really well . what is your energy doing?
? Where does your.. how is your vibe? What are you giving out in order to understand what you are receiving? Because we all have different energies . our energies are very different depending on what were doing, who were with, where we are.
? So when you are able to understand what you are doing in your relationship, not just what is working or not working but how you are responding to what is going on in your relationship, that’s when you get a really clear idea of how you need to address the difficulties, how you know that you need to keep some buts going but that you need to work really hard to nurture other bits and you know, communication as always is absolutely key.
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